Ten Secrets to be a Better Person

The first secret - the power of thought.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Lovingthoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations canchange our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to lovesomeone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your idealpartner will help you recognize her when you meet her.

The second secret - the power of respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. Thefirst person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respectask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others,even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"

The third secret - the power of giving.
if you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The morelove you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freelyand unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committingto a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you,but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of ahappy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can giveinstead of what you can take.

The fourth secret - the power of friendship.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does notconsist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together inthe same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for whothey are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil >through which love'sseeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, >you must first bringfriendship.

The fifth secret - the power of touch (with limitations).
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking downbarriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotionalstates And makes us more receptive to love.

The sixth secret - the power of letting go.
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you it's yours,if it doesn't it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need theirown space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive andlet go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears,prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has nopower over me - today is the beginning of a new life."

The seventh secret - the power of communication.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To lovesomeone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you lovethem and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "ILove You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leavesomeone you love with a loving word - it could be the last >time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to >the people youloved, who would you call, what would you say and ... why are you >waiting?

The eighth secret - the power of commitment.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, andthat commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment isthe true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you mustbe committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to >someoneor something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes afragile relationship from a strong one.

The ninth secret - the power of passion.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not comethrough physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm,interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experienceswhen you felt passionate. Spontaneity and >surprises produce passion. TheEssence of love and happiness are the same; all >we need to do is to live eachday with passion.

The tenth secret - the power of trust.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one personbecomes suspicious,anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped andemotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless youtrust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love willnever end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right foryou is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?"If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.

If God makes clear the way to go,

yet we insist on saying, "No";

He may consent to what we choose,

But in the end we're sure to lose.

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